@lifeofboheme
I fully believe in taking charge of your own pleasure. There’s nothing more empowering than understanding your personal, intimate needs. Historically, we’ve been shamed by society for this, but times are changing. Now we’re in the age of sex positivity, embracing the freedom to explore our fantasies and desires, whether that be alone or with a partner (or multiple partners). But in order to maximize your pleasure, you have to have the tools to do so. You wouldn’t put in the time and effort to cook a delicious meal without the right ingredients right? Apply this same attitude to your sex life. No idea where to start? Look no further. Here’s a list of nightstand essentials for sexual exploration (and bigtime satisfaction). No matter where you are on your journey of sexual exploration, keeping any (or all) of these items in your nightstand is sure to enhance your sex life.
Your Favorite Toys
First on the list is finding your new favorite sex toy. I used to find sex toys and the idea of using them so intimidating. Now, I see them as ways to elevate your bedroom adventures. Unsure of what to get? Vibrators and dildos are a great place to start because they can be used solo or with a partner. My personal favorite is Unbound Babes’ Bender vibrator. With it’s flexible design and gender neutral appearance, it’s perfect for novice or expert play during any type of sexual exploration.
Plenty Of Lube
Whenever I mention how essential lube is, I’m met with some form of protest. Most people feel that since they produce enough lubrication naturally, it’s not necessary to have. If you believe that, then you’re missing out on all the fun it can provide! Lube isn’t just designated for vaginal sex — and it’s necessary if you’re having anal sex (remember, the anus does not self-lubricate!). It’s also handy for pairing with sex toys to help reduce friction. Or, you can take oral sex to a new dimension with a a flavored edible lube. Currently, I’m loving the Sliquid Swirl Tangerine Peach lubricant. This yummy water-based lube is compatible with all sexual activities, so it’s super versatile. Plus, it’s sugar-free, so no yeast infections here.
A Candle To Set The Mood
Sex is just as mental as it is physical. In order to feel comfortable exploring your body, you have to be in a relaxed mental state too. Try keeping a candle on your nightstand to give your space a soothing but also sexy ambience. Lighting a candle with a sultry scent instantly transforms the atmosphere and sets the mood. You can kick it up a notch by purchasing a massage candle. That way you get aromatherapy, mood lighting, and an excuse to give (or receive) a sensual massage.
A Sexy Game
If your journey of sexual exploration includes a partner, why not try a sex game? Games can bring novelty into your routine and provide some lighthearted fun between you and your partner. If you’re with a new person, it can open up a space to learn each other’s likes and dislikes. And If you’re in an established relationship, bringing a sex game into the mix can spice things up for the both of you. My favorite game to play is Unbound Babes’ Truth Or Dare Cards. The truth cards initiate intimate conversation, while the dare cards offer steamy prompts. We dare you to try!
