• By Carissa Zadwarny February 28, 2020

If you’re not familiar with the term ‘chakra,’ allow me to introduce you to a world that might just blow your mind. I was once told that, “my third eye chakra is probably closed.” Not that I had any clue what that even meant, but in the moment, it freaked me out. As it would anyone, I presume?

Those who have reaped the benefits of fully balanced and open chakras swear by their power, which makes the concept all the more compelling. So how does one go about balancing these so-called chakras? Even more intriguing, what if this practice could benefit your sex life too? I reached out to none other than the chakra girl herself, Amber-Lee Lyons (@chakragirlco) for the general rundown. Read on to learn all about chakra balancing 101.

CZ

How did you get turned on to the practice of chakra-balancing, and how has it changed your life?

AL

I first became obsessed with chakras when my life was a hot mess in my twenties. I started doing hot yoga with the intention to lose some party-pounds which resulted in a journey of self-discovery. I arrived late for yoga one day and the only other class available at the time was a meditation class. I reluctantly decided to take the class after I asked the receptionist if I would lose weight from it. Her response? ‘… Eventually.’ While in the class I realized how difficult it was for me to sit in silence. Not only was my brain was going wild, my body had a hard time in stillness. I felt a massive lump of energy in my throat and realized that I was constantly swallowing, clearing my throat, or coughing. I was the only person in the room who just could not be still and quiet. I asked the teacher at the end of meditation class what the heck was happening in my throat and she said it might be a blocked throat chakra. I had no idea what that meant, but immediately went home and consulted Dr. Google. I read about crystal healing, energy work, and how we can mentally and energetically change our lives with small daily rituals. It brought me back to elementary school in 1996 when being obsessed The Craft, and wished I had magical powers. I was excited to test this stuff out! I bought an aquamarine crystal, and slept with it on my throat, meditated with it in the morning and before bed, and in two weeks that energy in my throat had cleared. One of the “chakra superpowers” that lives in the the throat is opening up to your true potential, so a side effect of that throat chakra work was a massive desire to share this work with the world. I was so excited to dive into healing all my chakras and sharing it with other millennial women in a fun, approachable, and arm-pit-shaving-friendly way!

CZ

So, what exactly is a chakra?

AL

Our chakras are the seven key energy centers in the physical body and energetic body that connect us to our own energetic patterns. They guide our emotions, our manifestations, our physical well being, and the reality we create for ourselves. Chakras are transmitters and receptors: they are constantly emitting a frequency, and the frequency that we receive back will match the frequency that we emit. Essentially, we’re talking about the energetic law of karma. When the chakras are aligned they vibrate at a high frequency and we manifest a more high-vibe life. When the chakras are blocked or misaligned we have a low frequency. You just feel like a wet blanket that can’t seem to get out of the same old self-sabotaging patterns. The Sanskrit meaning of chakra is “spinning wheel,” which speaks to how all of the chakras are spinning together as a unit, so when one of them is off kilter it can affect the others.

CZ

Can you walk us through each of the 7 chakras? Which points do they correspond to on the body and what effects do they have on us?

AL

The Root Chakra:
Color: Red
Location: Lower back, pubic area, legs, feet
Energies: Abundance, Fearlessness, Grounding
You stand in your power, feel rooted in your mission and are in momentum towards the life you desire.
Celebrity: Beyoncé
When blocked: Money issues, fear of failure, no clarity or momentum towards the life you want.

The Sacral Chakra
Color: Orange
Location: Pelvis, mid/low back, reproductive organs, lower digestive tract, lower belly
Energies: Creativity, Passion, Emotional Intelligence
You know your worth and are connected to your feminine power.
Celebrity: Rihanna
When blocked: Lack of creativity, imbalanced sex drive, addiction, guilt, shame, sense of unworthiness or being undeserving.

The Solar Plexus Chakra
Color: Yellow
Location: Upper stomach (right below rib cage), mid-back, upper digestive tract
Energies: Vibrancy, Motivation, Confidence
You have that “je ne sais quoi” that lights up the room and the high-vibe energy needed to step into action towards the life you desire.
Celebrity: Katy Perry
When imbalanced: Lack of motivation, manic energy (high highs and low lows), dullness.

The Heart Chakra:
Color: Pink and Green
Location: Heart, chest, shoulders, arms, hands, upper back
Energies: Balance, Love, Self-Love
You realize you are pure love and are giving and receiving love in a balanced way which is reflected in balance in all areas of your life, from finances to relationship to health and wellness.
Celebrity: Amal Clooney
When imbalanced: Imbalanced in love and all areas of life (giving too much or taking too much), lack of self-love, “all or nothing” patterns, sense of being unlovable, selfishness, people-pleasing.

The Throat Chakra:
Color: Blue/Turquoise
Location: Throat, neck, jaw, teeth, ears, nose
Energies: Expression, Authenticity, Truth
You are sharing an important message with the world and living your purpose to elevate the collective, and you know that we are all here to make the world a better place by speaking our truth.
Celebrity: Adele
When imbalanced: Either too aggressive or too passive, anxiety and social anxiety, desire to hide and blend in with the crowd, unable to speak your truth or stand up for yourself in a balanced way, perfectionism, fear of judgement.

The Third Eye Chakra:
Color: Indigo
Location: Brow area, eyes, temples, pineal gland
Energies: Intuition, Inner Guidance, Visualizing
You are connected to your own inner compass that guides you towards the right actions that will manifest the life you desire.
Celebrity: J.Lo
When imbalanced: Lack of clarity around thoughts, disconnected from intuition, not grounded in reality, over-analyzing.

The Crown Chakra:
Color: Purple
Location: Crown of head, space above head
Energies: Flow, Connection to Source, Manifestation
You are seamlessly flowing through life, attracting the people, opportunities, and manifestations you desire.
Celebrity: Oprah
When imbalanced: Everything feels forced, unable to manifest the life you want, disconnected (everyone will have a blocked crown unless the rest are somewhat balanced).

CZ

How do you know if your chakras are out of whack?

AL

Chakra blocks can manifest physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. The first step is to understand the energies, emotions, and physical locations of each chakra and you can self-diagnose! No one knows you better than you do, and your intuition will know where you need to start with this work. Another easy cue is to sit in silence and relaxation and take a few deep breaths all the way into your toes, being really mindful and attentive to what’s happening in your body. You may feel a tightness in your chest, a pain in your solar plexus area, a disconnected energy in your sacral chakra, even an inability to feel any energy flowing to the root. Typically if you have not done any of this work you will feel like you need to work on every chakra, and that’s okay! Start with the root and when you balance that, it may actually balance out some of the other ones because they are all connected!

CHAKRUBS

NONI EGG

GLACCE

CRYSTAL STRAW

DAME

ALOE LUBE

“When your chakras are balanced, you manifest better, more connected, present sex, which leads to powerful orgasms.”

CZ

Which chakras have the greatest impact on sex?

AL

Chakras play a huge role in your sex life, particularly the sacral chakra. We store energy from past relationships in our pelvic area and hips, so it’s important to clear out any guilt, shame, or drama. That clearing will really balance out your sex drive and your emotional connection to sex. In this modern age of “girl bosses” the solar plexus plays a huge role in sex because women are burning themselves out and having no “sex spark” left at the end of the work day. A balanced heart chakra is also important to sex because that’s where the balance between our feminine and masculine energies live. If women are in their masculine energy all day, whether they are part of a heterosexual couple or a same-sex couple, there needs to be a balance between their feminine and masculine energy. Too much feminine energy or too much masculine energy will result in not enough sex.

CZ

What are the sexual benefits of having your chakras aligned?

AL

When your chakras are aligned you open up your sexual chemistry to more high vibration sex, a deeper connection to your partner, better discernment when choosing a partner, and full access to the physical nerves in the sex organs. All while being able to stay fully present.

CZ

Is it possible to manifest better sex and better orgasms?

AL

When your chakras are balanced you manifest better, more connected, more present sex, which leads to more powerful orgasms. Orgasms are a full expression of all the chakras and actually lead to more powerful manifestations in all areas of your life. A hot chakra tip: right before and during your orgasm is when your vibrational frequency is at its peak, and you are most open to manifest. During these moments, visualize something you want in any area of your life — whether it’s a yacht, a book deal, or a more fulfilled life.

CZ

How do you use crystals in your chakra-balancing practice?

AL

Crystals are powerful chakra-balancing tools not only because they spark a trigger in the brain that releases the frequency around our intention, but also because each crystal has its own frequency that matches the frequency of your chakras. An easy way to choose crystals for a specific chakra is to match the color of the crystal to the color of the chakra you are working on. For example: the color of the solar plexus is yellow, so a yellow citrine crystal will balance your solar plexus. You can put the crystal directly on the chakra which will change the energetic frequency of your chakra, or you can keep the crystal close by or in sight so that every time you see it the intention is triggered in your mind. Thoughts create emotions, which create frequency.

CZ

Which crystals are your current or all-time favorites and why?

AL

My all-time favorite crystals are citrine and amethyst. Citrine just gives you that high energy, high frequency, juicy rich b*tch energy that supports you in manifesting and staying motivated towards your goals. Amethyst is so powerful for manifesting, not only because it’s a crown chakra stone but also because it has the power to transmute negative energy into positive energy and just feels zen.

CZ

How can you incorporate crystals into sex? I love a good crystal dildo moment, check out @chakrubs on Instagram.

AL

Crystal yoni eggs are a great tool to strengthen the vaginal muscles and pelvic floor for better sex. They also keep teaching you how to connect to your body in a deeper way and can heal any chakra imbalances in the sacral chakra. You can also simply keep crystals that represent the sexual experience you want to have on your nightstand. If you want to feel empowered and feminine, opt for a sacral chakra crystal like orange calcite. For more spontaneous and wild sex, keep some citrine close by (be sure to take it off the nightstand before going to sleep because it can actually keep you too energized to sleep). For more balanced sex, you can keep both a rose quartz to represent the feminine, and a green aventurine to represent the masculine. Get creative because 50% of crystal benefits are intention, so the crystal is a physical cue of what you want to manifest. The more attention and energy you give it, the more it activates!

CZ

How can we create our own sexual chakra-balancing practices/routines/rituals at home?

AL

Good sex starts with the individual, and healing any imbalances that are happening within them emotionally, energetically and mentally. A daily ritual to get real with your vibrations and how to heal yourself to vibrate higher is a must. The more love and attention you give to yourself, the more of the same love and attention you receive from your partner and they become an energetic match for your vibration.