We’ve all been conditioned to assume other people’s gender. How often do you look at someone and make a snap decision about whether to refer to them as he or she, based solely on appearance? If you were raised in a culture with gender roles (ahem, all of us), probably daily. I’m not trying to condemn anyone — it’s pretty much what’s going to happen in a culture that upholds and reinforces the gender binary. But guess what? There’s a lot more to gender identity than male or female, and anyone is capable of relearning what they’ve been taught. If you’re ready to think more critically about gender, good for you! Now it’s time to navigate a new language, with different terms, new expressions, and pronouns beyond he and she. To help, we talked with human rights activist Bethany C. Meyers about living outside the gender binary.